Kristi Noem’s cross-dressing husband Brion told a dominatrix he loved it when she was mean to his family – while telling her he thought he would become a “great woman”.
The sex worker, Shae Sotomayor, made tens of thousands of dollars through her lewd phone conversations with Noem, 56, which included at least one of them calling his family “disgusting,” according to the offensive messages. Obtained by the Daily Mail.
“What’s the total?” asked Brion Noem, who used the handle Chrystalballz666 in some of the exchanges.
“Your family,” Sotomayor responded.
“I like that. Do you really think they’re gross?” asked the playfully controlling Noem.
“LOL yeah. Right,” she answered about Kristen Noem and, apparently, their three children.
Noem asks why she thinks they’re disgusting, and she replies, “Besides the truth about your wife, no one is prettier than me. No one is as strong.”
“F-king true,” Brion Noem replied.
In the same exchange in November 2025, he told Sotomayor that he would like to become a woman.
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She wrote him an encouraging letter: “I think you will be a great woman.”
“I have to agree with you. Hair removal. Huge fake boobs. Butt implants. Hormones,” he replied proudly, adding that he expected them to meet sometime in 2026.
In other conversations, Noem revealed his desire to be Sotomayer’s “transsexual slut” named “Crystal” and dreams of leaving his family.
Although he likes to tell his family that his family is “horrible,” Briony Noem has seemed defensive about his wife in other conversations.
“I love my wife,” he insisted at one point, to which Sotomayor harshly replied, “She is not lovable at all.”
Brion Noem’s secret life as a cross-dressing member of the “bimbofication” fetish community was revealed last week – along with embarrassing photos of him seductively posing with absurdly large prosthetic breasts.
Kristi Noem, who was fired from her position as secretary of the Department of Homeland Security last month, said through a spokesperson that she was “devastated” and that the family was “shocked” by the revelations.
Sotomayor said she and Noem first connected in 2016, but he suddenly and inexplicably stopped contacting her in 2020. Five years later, they reconnected.
Eventually, Sotomayor said, Noem became so demanding of her time that she looked up his phone number and mailbox address through an online search and learned his real identity.